The Refrigerator Test, Dating and Relationship Lessons by Paul Harkins
32 surprising lessons about dating, relationships, and the ordinary moments that reveal everything.
A book by Paul Harkins
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About the Book
What people reveal when they think no one is really watching.
Paul Harkins didn't expect dating after fifty to teach him anything. He'd been married. Built businesses. Made a few spectacularly bad decisions. He thought he had life mostly figured out.
Then he started dating again, and discovered that people don't reveal themselves over candlelit dinners. They reveal themselves in refrigerators, text messages, trips to Trader Joe's, and whether leftovers belong in the fridge for three days or four.
Short, sharp chapters
Parts: Observations, Evaluations, Realizations
Refrigerator that started it all
Take the Test
Open your fridge. Meet yourself.
The Refrigerator Test is simple, slightly invasive, and surprisingly accurate. Take an honest inventory of what's in your refrigerator right now, the shelves, the drawers, the door, all of it, and the pattern will tell you which of the book's six archetypes you're living as this week.
Check every item that's actually in there. Be honest. Nobody's watching but your leftovers.
The Refrigerator Test isn't science. It's just the truth, quietly told, at 40°F.
Reader Reviews
4.9 stars on Amazon.
Based on 41 Amazon ratings
"Funny, sharp, and painfully accurate. I laughed on page one and texted three friends by page ten."
"The refrigerator chapter alone is worth the price. It's the kind of observation you don't unsee."
"Reads like your smartest friend finally writing down the things everyone else is too polite to say."
The Author
Paul Harkins
Observer of ordinary moments.
Paul is a founder and lifelong observer of the small, ordinary moments where people accidentally tell the truth about themselves.
He's been married, built businesses, made some good decisions and a few spectacularly bad ones. The Refrigerator Test is his first book, part memoir, part field guide, and part public admission that he's still learning too.
"I'm not writing this as a dating expert. Far from it. I've made enough mistakes to earn an honorary degree in bad decisions."
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ISBN Paperback 979-8-9967003-1-8 · ISBN Ebook 979-8-9967003-2-5